I Claim Cronehood
Author: Rev. etain.butterfly
I am claiming Crone. I am a Crone and a proud one at that. The aging process I embrace wholeheartedly. This does not mean that I am letting myself go with the mindset, ‘I am OLD – what’s the use?’ On the contrary, I am doing everything to enhance my life, every aspect of my life in the here and now.
I read this article, ‘Thoughts on Claiming Crone, by Kaye Chatterton’ and she said:
“Chronological age by itself does not ensure wisdom and maturity. There are older women who are stuck in the past resentments, bitter experiences of unmet expectations. Others continue in self-defeating behaviors, feel martyred or like a victim. Some have never broken out of old patterns to speak their truth, to claim their personal power. So what is the “real” process of becoming Crone in our current times?”
She goes on to say,
“The “Call of the Crone” is a call to introspection and life review. The Call of the Crone is to the long view of our life but even the longer view of historical patterns and gifts of cultures and legacies of those who came before. The Call is to prepare for leaving the physical body that no longer serves you, and to let go of personal identity into the essence of you, to return to the whole as you receive it.”
“What is Crone Wisdom? It is not about knowing the right answers. It is about knowing the right questions to ask.
How do I die well? What would that look like for me? Perhaps more important is, how do I live fully in the joy of the present moment? How can I live in awareness and aliveness now? How I can connect to my essence: the real me? How can I live with sustained gratitude and appreciation? How can I support and share love with all my relations? How can I share the luminous light that is me?”
This certainly sparked lots of questions for me to figure out. After all, I do want to be the best Crone possible, not only for me, but also for my family, friends and the sisterhood of all Crones.
After reading this article I have been thinking about where can I start to incorporate these questions into my life. What steps can I take now to enhance this Crone journey I am on so I can be all that I am meant to be?
Once I figured out what I wanted, what was really important to me, the rest fell into play very easily.
Steps to incorporate into my daily routine:
•Take care of me by eat properly, exercise and walk each day, and not try to hide my imperfections of aging with a heavy make-up mask. Moderation is the key to everything here.
•Be my authentic self that is in the now. I don’t do drama, I don’t stress, I don’t try to prove myself to anyone, and I have good doable boundaries set.
•I am letting go of the hurts of the past, forgiving those that have harmed me, and making way for new experiences to come to me
•I am proud I am a Crone and I embrace it wholeheartedly with all the imperfections that tag along. Do I like wrinkles, arthritis, some aches and pains once in a while – sure don’t but I deal with it by not letting it define me.
•I belong to the sisterhood of Cronehood – I chose to be a role model for the younger generation. I want to be there to answer questions, offer suggestions, and show that we still have a lot to offer in spite of the advancing years.
•I get out there and get involved with living life. I read books, I join organizations, I make time to visit friends and have an active social life. I have many talents such as painting, poetry, sewing, artist trading cards, and journaling. The key here is to keep busy.
•I am not afraid to try something new, meet new people, and learn new things. You know the old saying ‘if you don’t use it you lose it”.
•I treat myself like the Goddess I am. I pamper myself, love myself, and have learned to stop the negative self-talk. I talk to myself as though I am talking to my best friend because I am my best friend.
•I don’t struggle with my ego about unsustainable expectations of physical appearances.
This confrontation of the loss of my youth is not going to happen – I debunk the idea of the youth-oriented society and the over emphasis on supple beauty, flowing hair and thin bodies. Been there and done that. Instead, I appreciate my body for all that it does for me each day.
A quote I totally love is:
“Do not grow old, no matter how long you live. Never cease to stand like curious children before the great mystery into which we are born”. ~Albert Einstein~
My acceptance of the aging process and changing my mindset has helped me make the changes I needed to make to be grateful for what I have today. I am living in the here and now. I am striving to be my authentic self and know that life is worth living and enjoying all of it without the pressure from the youth-oriented society. I have moments when I miss the ‘good ole days’ but that is happening less and less. I now look forward to learning what this segment of my life has to offer me. I keep an open mind and look for lessons to learn and lessons to teach.
I truly am having the time of my life.